Hi,
I'm new here and would just like to tell people about my mum. Mum was diagnosed with Lung cancer in Feb 2017, in April she had a lobectomy, then in 2018 she was diagnosed with kidney Cancer, she had her right kidney removed, in early 2020 she was diagnosed with Cancer of the Larynx and started a 4 week (daily dose) of radiotherapy, after her radiotherapy she was told that there was signs of cancer in her other lung, they waited until the Autumn of 2020 to remove part of that lung. During one of her check ups after her radiotherapy mum had another biopsy on her larynx, which the consultant told us had no signs of cancer, so for a while mum was cancer free. Then in November 2021, mum had another biopsy which told us the cancer was back in her Larynx, mum couldn't have an op because she was too frail (she was 82 at this stage) and she couldn't have radiotherapy again or chemo, so the only option was to take the no treatment route, she was told she would have months to a year to live. So in 2022 mum took to doing all the things she wanted to do before she died, she went to Greece, went to Belgium to see where her Grandad died in the war and had many days with her family making memories, she welcomed two Great Grandchildren. Sadly my mum died on the 30th November 2022. My problem is that in the days leading up to my mum's death, I didn't realise just how ill she was, her breathing wasn't the best, I called an Ambulance in the early hours of Sunday morning but they wouldn't take my mum to hospital because she wasn't under palliative care, then on the Monday morning she was worse so I decided to take my mum up to our local A&E, luckily the triage nurse saw how ill my mum was and took us to a cubicle straight away, mum was given the option of a tracheotomy but she would spend the rest of her days in the hospital, so she decided against that, my mum lasted until the Wednesday, but my frustration is with myself because I just didn't realise how ill she was, I was still under the impression that she would be coming home again. All the warning signs were there that she was dying but I didn't want to believe it.
It's now nearly 8 months since her death and I'm still struggling with it.
Thank you for listening to me.
Lisa
