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My Dad died and I am getting married in two months

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My Dad was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer earlier this year and very sadly died about a month after his diagnosis, he passed away about 2 weeks ago, it had been such an awful time and we all miss him so much. I'm trying to continue with life but I'm getting married in two months and I am just so sad he won't be there to walk me down the aisle and experience the day with us, we don't want to postpone & Dad wouldn't have wanted us to either. I can't think about it at the moment without crying and I'm so worried for the day, I want to remember and include him, but I don't want to cry all day. 

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you cope on the day? 

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    Hiya, 

    I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad, it's all so raw for you right now. Like you said, your Dad would want you to carry on and enjoy your big day. It'll be emotional but you will be ok, and no one will begrudge you a few tears. I lost my own dear Dad when I was 34 and I can tell you, that it gets easier. You still miss them but you begin to smile at the memories and feel lucky to have had a good Dad. Maybe set aside some time alone in the morning to think of your dad, shed some tears and get yourself together for the celebrations. 

    Wishing you all the best.

    Jane xx

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    Hi, I’m so sorry for your recent loss. I joined the forum today as I am in a similar situation and felt I wanted to connect with you. My mum was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer 4 weeks ago and passed away today, we had such a tough 4 weeks as it progressed so quickly. I get married in November and I’m so worried how I will feel on the day, we don’t want to reschedule either but I’m worried it will be so difficult for me and others in my family when I had thought it would be the happiest day of our lives. We’ve been talking about how I can include her in the day with some personal touches that aren’t public so to keep her close. Hope you have reached some peace with your loss 

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