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Death was not peaceful

Jader77
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I'm struggling to get over my Dad dying, to me it wasn't peaceful. My dad chose to die at home but in those last few days he seemed in pain and was in and out of sleep. I was crying for help from the medics but they always seemed to be late. My last moments was her injecting him with meds then calling for us, it was horrific as my dads face looked scared and was twitching and not peaceful. I can't get that image from my mind, I just hope he wasn't in pain

  • Welcome to the forum Jader77 although I'm very sorry to hear of your dad's passing.

    It can be very traumatic to see a loved one pass away, especially if you feel they were in pain or it wasn't as peaceful as you were hoping it would be, but I hope it helps to know that many of our members will definitely understand the pain and anguish you are experiencing at the moment and hopefully some of them will be along soon to offer their support and advice.

    Many of our members have also benefitted from bereavement counselling when finding ways to cope with their grief so if you feel this is something you'd like to try or just look in to then do have a look at what support is available on Cruse Bereavement Support and Sue Ryder which offers a free online bereavement counselling service.

    Be kind to yourself Jader and for the moment just try to take things a day at a time. It might not feel like it right now but there will come a time when you will be able to think about your dad and these images will not be in the forefront of your mind.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

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