Loosing my wife to Cancer

Evening, I'm trying to find a group in my area.

I lost my wife to Cancer 10th December 2022 aged just 44 after finding out on the 8th November 2022 that she had Cancer cells in the chest drain.

From the beginning in January 2020 my wife and I found out that she had Stage 3 triple negative breast cancer an aggressive form off. She undergone two surveys, Chemotherapy and Radiotherapy. We got the all clear after the treatment ended in February 2021. But as a follow up she was having managrams on 6 monthly check ups. The last was beginning of October 2022. In September 2022 she started getting back pains of which the GP past off as strained muscle. October 26th she was struggling to breathe so called GP who advised called 101 of which they called an ambulance. That evening a chest drain was put in, 8th November we was told Cancer cells was found in the chest drain and further testing was needed. We was discharged while the test was being done. My wife was not eating and was becoming confused so I called to make an appointment. When we went to the appointment on the 5th December the surgeon wasn't happy the way things was and admitted her. On the 6th December I was told she had months left then on the 8th December only weeks left. She passed away in my arms early hours 10th December 2022. I'm deverstated hurting and grieving. I am going through counselling at the present but was trying to seach to see if there is a group out there I can find that either has been through or going through my pain and loss. 

  • Cwalk 

    welcome 

    I could not scroll past your post 

    firstly I'm so sorry of what you have been through loosing your dear wife my very deepest sympathy.

    I had breast cancer last year and my poor husband went to hell and back I felt he was going through it the same as me but it broke my heart to see him .

    im not sure how or what I can say to make things better but I hope and pray that you can find some comfort in finding maybe local groups in your area with people going through the same thing 

    life is so cruel and this disease has no morals I always have the fear of mine returning so I live each day like it's my last and I can see the fear still in my husbands eyes it's turned our lives upside down . 
    I really hope others here will pop along and offer you support or just general chats .

    I will pray that you have strength to get through this horrible time 

    wishing you the best 

    Lara 

  • Laraj

     

    Evening thank you for your very kind words and I wish you and your husband all the best for the future I agree that your husband was going through it too as for us we feel helpless watching our loved ones but the main focus we aim is for our loved ones becoming well again and we try our best not to show our feelings. 

    Wishing you and your husband all the best fir the future 

    Kind regards 

    Chris

  • Chris 

    thsnk you so much for your honest reply 

    You will be in my prayers and thoughts god bless  you and take each day at a time .