My Dad died of prostate cancer 5 months ago and I can't cope

Miss my Dad so much, feel so low, trying to keep my Mums spirits up but I'm struggling. I feel like I don't want to talk to friends etc, just feel like I want to be miserable. I don't know what to do. Everything I do I want to tell my Dad x 

  • Hi RD,

    I'm very sorry for your loss. 

    I lost my dad just over five months ago, shortly after a cancer diagnosis and I am also struggling. My dad was my best friend, I saw him everyday and the void left behind is indescribable. As I got older my parents were the people I used to enjoy spending time with the most. 

    I used to tell my dad all about my day, my parents lived five minutes down the road and now there is just an emptiness. I think about him constantly and just want to talk to him again. I miss him so much. I am trying to just get through each day and support my mum but it feels like the joy has gone out of the world. 

    X

     

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    Hi Lulu86,

    I'm so sorry for the loss of your Dad. 

    It's so hard isn't it, I'm only 5 minutes away from my parents too and spend a lot of time with them. It's just too painful to think I will never see my Dad again.

    I feel like I never want to be ok again as my Dad was such a huge part of my life and miss him dreadfully.  

    Take care  and I think doing one day at a time is the only way, at the moment. 

    Becky x 

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    Hi Becky,

     

    Thanks for your reply. I know what you mean with thinking you will never be ok again. 

    I want to keep talking about my dad and I think the focus, for me, is trying to find a way to keep my connection to my dad even though he is no longer physically here. I've no idea what that looks like right now. 

    We are at a similar stage in terms of time frame since losing our dad's. If you ever want to chat please feel free to message. 

    Xx

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    Thank you for your reply. 

    I also need to keep my Dad in life, I talk about him a lot and when I don't know what else to do I go to his grave and sit with him, it's so upsetting but its the only way of being with him.

    If you ever need a chat too, just message me. 

    Thank you x 

  • Hello :) just jumping onto this thread. It's 14 weeks tomorrow since I lost my beloved Dad.

    I thought I was doing ok but I'm clearly not. I went back to work 2 weeks after he passed away and now I'm thinking I didn't give myself enough time. 

    I'm so angry that he left us so quickly. (23 days after diagnosis) I'm so angry that I didn't get to do some of the things with him that we talked about. I'm upset that my little boys don't have their devoted Grandad anymore. I could go on.....

    I've done a lot of crying this past week and I've felt really low. Waves of emotion just keep hitting me and literslly knocking me for six. Some days I forget hes even passed and then I remember and it hits me again.

    I just feel so sad x

  • Hi jo123456

    I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand totally what you are saying, it's been 5 months since my Dad left and I feel so low, to cope I have to block it from my mind as if it hasn't happened but then it hits me and I get so upset, I'm trying to be ok for my Mum. 

    Take care xx