Lack of support

I lost my dad to cancer 3 weeks ago and my long term partner has let me down so much I have had no support and day after my dad's funeral he got drunk through day which he knows is not ok due to his addition and also cause we have two kids who we never have drank are been drunk around more so through day and on this day I told him if he don't stop drinking he will need to go somewhere else and he relapsed so didn't speak for 4 days and now he just don't care no support nothing I can't grieve my dad's death as all day I'm dealing with kids but it gets me at night where I just sit and cry it's really effecting my mental health and I have tried to speak with partner who says it's my fault he not supported me as I asked him to leave that day he don't care he has no emotion for me and what I'm going through he just keeps saying it's all on me 

  • Hello Jackie130,

    I'm sorry for your loss and to hear about your situation. It can sometimes feel like your on your own, but please try not to feel that way, you're not alone and there's support out there. Grief is an experience that is personal so it's important to take care of yourself. Even though you're a mother with a busy life, do allow yourself some moments in the day to process things, mindfulness can be helpful with this. 

    You should keep trying to communicate how you feel to your partner, but if you need to speak to someone, you can call the Cruse bereavement free helpline 0808 808 1677. Cancer Chat is always here for you too.

    All the best to you,

    Moderator Anastasia