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3 months after mum passed away and still struggling

Ddanielle
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My mum passed away on 4th January. I have 4 siblings and my step dad (technically my dad as he brought me up) 1 month after my mum has passed my dad started dating someone. He rang us all up individually to say that he had met someone and it wasn't romantic but it could be in the future. 

They are now officially together and myself and some of my siblings can't handle this situation. Ever since he rang and said that there was a chance the relationship could turn romantic, it makes me feel sick. 

There is a clear divide in the family now and I just can't get my head around him moving on from my mum so fast. I know she would have wanted him to be happy and find love again but I don't think I can come to terms with how quickly this has happened.

Does anyone have any experiences similar to this? Do I just grin and bare it? I haven't seen my dad since that phone call.

  • I'm so sorry to hear your mum passed away at the beginning of the year Ddanielle. You have my most heartfelt condolences for your loss.

    I can't begin to imagine how difficult the last few months have been for you, especially with the developments that have happened in your dad's personal life, but our community are here for you and I'm sure some of our members who have been in a similar position with their parents will be along soon to offer you their support and advice.

    In the meantime, be kind to yourself Ddanielle and remember that's it's completely understandable, and natural, to have mixed feelings about your dad at the moment. Give yourself time to process what has happened and when you feel ready, get back in touch with him to talk things through. 

    Coping with grief comes with so many challenges and obstacles along the way but I hope you can take some strength, and comfort, from knowing that you are not alone.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    He is now getting married in 2 weeks! Still can't believe it really. 

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