Hello Kirk66 and a warm welcome to Cancer Chat, 

I am so sorry for your loss. It doesn't matter what age we are, losing a loved one is a painful experience and it sounds like you and your dad were really close and he was a real inspiration to you. How sad that he passed away just a day before your birthday and it all happened so fast it must have been such a shock to you. 

That song by Gerry Rafferty will always remind you of your dad as it was his favourite song so it will always be a very special song for you which will understandably make you feel very emotional. I am sure many of our members will be able to relate to this and will also have a song, film, book or anything else that will have strong associations with their loved ones. 

I thought I would share with you our page on coping with grief where you will find out more about the range of feelings you might go through when you lose a loved one. Grief is very personal though and there is no right or wrong way to react. You have done the right thing though to come on this forum where you will be able to talk to others who have also lost a loved one to cancer and who understand what you are currently going through. 

We're thinking of you during this difficult time and wanted you to know that you are not alone. I will now let our members come and say hello and share their stories with you. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator