I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with the grief surrounding the loss of your Mum. There is no time frame in which grief becomes any less easy to bear and as such it's never too late to reach out for professional help.
I know that many people have found it beneficial to have bereavement counselling following the death of a loved one and I'd suggest looking at the website for a charity called Cruse. They're able to offer bereavement support. It's also worth talking with your GP about how you're struggling as there may be other underlying problems contributing to how you're feeling.
I do hope that you're able to reach out for support MKB and that things begin to improve for you.
I lost my Mum last year and my Dad too. I lived with my Mum, she was my best friend, my world and so when you say you are still struggling with the loss of your Mum from 1976 I can honestly understand. I do not think grief and the loss of our loved ones ever goes away. Time does not heal for most of us, some yes, some no. All we are left with is the knowledge they are never coming back to this life and we have to continue without them, I do not see how this will improve.....only perhaps in time we become more 'use' to it, an acceptance perhaps.
Thanks for taking the time to reply to my post. I know it was a terribly long time ago but sometimes I am still completely overwhelmed and have suffered from depression since about 1987. Sometimes when my mood is low I am terrified of losing my dad and have been convinced that it will result in a full breakdown.
It really does not matter, time has no relevance when it comes to grief. I'm so sorry you have suffered from depression and I can completely understand your fears of losing your Dad. My absolute worse fears came true last year losing them both, it was so unexpected. I also expected to have a full breakdown as I had one in 2006. Presently, somehow I have not experienced a breakdown despite going through the worst, most sad 12 months of my life. I still wake up daily expecting it to happen and maybe it will but today it hasn't. I remember my parent's courage, in particular my Mum's brave character and love for me and I know she would absolutely wish me to keep going, find hope in the future and try at times to find blessings and some happiness. Life is never all one thing or another. Its a mixture of good, bad and everything inbetween. I know the life I am living now is not the same as when she were here with me, its almost a second best life but maybe trying to live a second best life is better than no life. Please reach out to people if your feeling really low. Here anytime you need to talk.
