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My mum passed away

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I am writing this with a heavy heart, my beloved mum passed away yesterday evening after battling bile duct cancer. My heart is in pain. I love her so much and miss her dearly. I feel like no one will understand my pain unless they have experienced losing a parent. I am 31 years old and my mum was 64 years old...her birthday was in 2 weeks time. I know she was being given extra life with the surgery and chemo she was offered, she battled with everything she had until the end. My dad, brother and I were with her in the hospital with her and I was holding her hand. She was my best friend, she always had a story and the best smile. I would do anything to have her back. How do you cope losing a parent? I'm sorry if this doesn't make any sense, I can't sleep and thought I would come on here to find some comfort x 

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    I am so sorry for the loss of your mum. I completely understand how you feel, my mum also died from bile duct cancer December '22, she was 69.

    For me, the hardest part still is processing the speed of the illness, it was under 6 weeks from any symptoms whatsoever until she passed, we didn't get the diagnosis until she'd gone which in some ways is a blessing because of the stage it was at and the speed it went. Its a very very cruel disease and my experience feels very much like a sudden death rather than watching someone deteriorate for a long period of time, something else I'm also trying to take as a blessing.

    Its 6 weeks today since she died and some days it feels like yesterday, others it feels like it's been much longer. Some days I'm absolutely broken and others I can resume a bit more normality. No day is the same but I just keep telling myself my mum wouldn't want me to waste a single day of my life and I'm sure your mum wouldn't want that for you.

    Its the hardest thing in the world, it feels like your hearts been ripped out and it truly feels as if no one else can ever have felt this. But none of us are promised tomorrow, we've got to try and live how our loved ones would be telling us to if they could, easier said than done and I think only time, and lots of it, will help with the process x

     

    Carly 

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    I am so sorry for the loss of your mum. I completely understand how you feel, my mum also died from bile duct cancer December '22, she was 69.

    For me, the hardest part still is processing the speed of the illness, it was under 6 weeks from any symptoms whatsoever until she passed, we didn't get the diagnosis until she'd gone which in some ways is a blessing because of the stage it was at and the speed it went. Its a very very cruel disease and my experience feels very much like a sudden death rather than watching someone deteriorate for a long period of time, something else I'm also trying to take as a blessing.

    Its 6 weeks today since she died and some days it feels like yesterday, others it feels like it's been much longer. Some days I'm absolutely broken and others I can resume a bit more normality. No day is the same but I just keep telling myself my mum wouldn't want me to waste a single day of my life and I'm sure your mum wouldn't want that for you.

    Its the hardest thing in the world, it feels like your hearts been ripped out and it truly feels as if no one else can ever have felt this. But none of us are promised tomorrow, we've got to try and live how our loved ones would be telling us to if they could, easier said than done and I think only time, and lots of it, will help with the process x

     

    Carly 

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