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Fraserj2022
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I'm looking for advice and mainly to make sense of what has happened since the death of my mother. I took care of her everyday for 3 years, until she passed in 2022. When she was in hospice care for the last year and a half of her life I was there 2/3 times a day, with a toddler, full time job etc this was hard but I wouldn't change a thing. My heart is shattered that my mum is gone and some days I really don't know how I'll get through it all! 
I have a sister who visited twice in those 3 years, once was forced by myself really, and mum was heartbroken she didn't take the time to visit or call. 
Fast forward to today (mums funeral was in August) and she hasn't spoken to me, I called her she said she was working and has since never called back (that was September). No merry Christmas, no happy birthday and no congratulations on my pregnancy or announcement of the gender of my baby. 
I just really can not get my head around everything and wondered if anyone has been through similar? 

  • Hello Fraserj2022,

    I'm sorry to hear about your situation and how this is effecting your relationship with your sister. It's difficult to understand how she has been processing things when you haven't been able to talk to her, but I'd encourage you to keep trying. The loss of your mum may be affecting her in a different way and she might be finding it hard to engage with what's going on in your life. There is some advice here, which I hope might be useful.

    All the best to you,

    Moderator Anastasia

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    Hey how are you?

     

    I am sorry to hear about your situation and understand it's not an easy thing to process. You would think such emotional situation would bring family closer or make you appreciate them more but sadly it sometimes isn't.

    I am going through the same, nearly lost my mum last year and I was the main carer visited her everyday and was there until she took her last breath. I am the youngest out of three and life in London, while they live in Germany. My mum was the anchor the our family holding everyone together. My dad doesn't call me until I call him, one of my brother resents me as I was the only carer for my mum and think I could have done more. The other one busy with his own life. It certainly ain't easy as it feels like there's no family around us sometimes.

    Look after yourself and stay strong, here if you need to chat

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