My husband passed away on 30 August 2022. He was my everything, my whole world. We did everything together and knew each other since we were 15. We were married for almost 33 years and I cannot bear life without him. He was diagnosed in May 2018 with osephegal cancer. He was told they could operate but after going through all the hoops, the aneathetist made the call that it was too risky so he embarked on countless rounds of chemo and radiotherapy and umpteen endoscopies and loads of hospital appointments, countless ambulances and trip to A&E where we had to repeate the same story to medical people who just didnt understand what was happening to him. Many mistakes were made by the medical teams, I constantly had to battle with the NHS for everthing to happen and query everything and double check everything. He had a stroke because "they" told him to come off a certain drug, "they" overdosed one of his meds during a hospital stay 2 nights running, his mental state declined, he became anxious and had no concentration. All this broke my heart To see the person you love the most in the world go like this was hell. His last months were horrendous but he was at home and I did everything for him as our love was so strong and I know he would have done the same for me. He passed away quite unexpectedly as I just didnt believe this could happen. I kept thinking a cure would be found, some new treatment or he would "bounce back" as he did so many times before but he was losing so much weight and could not eat or swallow latterly despite his oncologist assuring me they wouldnt let him starve to death but in actual fact thats what happened I am so angry at his doctors.
I was and still am in complete shock. Having to organise the funeral and do all the closing of accounts and contracts etc is so hard. I cannot stop crying all day, I feel like my heart is shaking, I used to be confident and outgoing and now I am anxious, have no confidence and dont want to do anything. Nothing seems significant any more. I have never felt pain like this. The hole he has left in amy life is unbearable. I dont know what to do, except be with him as soon as possible.