Mum died in November 2021. She became ill in the early part of the year and was in and out of hospital. Living 30 miles away Dad was my source of information and throughout he insisted she was ok and being treated.  Then suddenly in late October he insisted Mum needed to see me and my sister the next day.  Due to COVID restrictions visiting hadn't been possible but suddenly it was.  My Dad admitted she was terminal.  My sister and I who both work full time with families of our own dropped everything to see her the next day. Mum wanted to come home and stop treatment - this was hard to accept but it was her decision so we helped dad to get the house in order for her to be comfortable. We also took turns to support dad and care for mum 24/7 until she died a week later. Afterwards Dad refused any help outside the family insisting he had his daughters. He would call daily to chat and was clearly struggling , they were married for 55 years and devoted to each other. But not living close it was difficult to be there for him.  He then wanted to arrange a trip abroad to Mum and dad's favourite holiday location to scatter her ashes but my sister and I were not ready to do this. We were struggling to deal with her death still. Dad didn't want to wait and went on his own. Then he told me on the phone he had met a new friend, a woman who he had feelings for. This was less than 4 months since Mum passed. I was shocked but felt if he needed someone and he was happy who was i to judge. However, when he asked if I wanted to speak to her then I wasn't ready to do that.  Dad seemed OK with that but the relationship has since broken down and he has sent cruel texts to me and my sister about the lack of support and that he wants nothing to do with us ever again.

He will not met to discuss or speak properly on the phone.