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Dreams of husband coming back to life.

Danielle33
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My husband passed away nearly a month ago. He was only 33 always been fit and healthy, never got poorly not even with a sickness bug in the 17 years I've known him. He was diagnosed with cancer between the lung lining and chest cavity on February 20th. He passed away 23 days later and I just cannot get my head round it at all. He was ventilated and his lung just couldn't recover. We have two children together and we can't seem to accept it. I keep dreaming every night that he comes back to life which is making me think that more could of been done? I don't think I will ever be ever to accept it till I have my answers. Can anyone help? 

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    Sending love out to you. It's certainly a shocking time you have been through and your dreams reflect that. Its hard to grasp what has happened to you and your family. I had many dreams that my friend was still alive after she passed. I would also see her in so many places and hints of her in so many strangers (I still do from time to time) Grief is such a hard path to navigate. Thinking of you xxx

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    Thankyou for your response x I don't know if it's just can't accept what's happened. It was all so fast, and because he was ventilated we didn't get to say goodbye, he didn't see our children. They gave him chemo in ICU and a couple of hours later he just couldn't get his breathe so they had to ventilate him, then gave him day two and three chemo while he was under. He was ventilated for 11 days before they woke him. And he came round and his oxygen dropped straight away and they had to reventilate otherwise he wouldn't of made the night. Then passed 3 days later. I just can't understand how someone so fit and healthy can be fine 2 months ago to this. I don't think I'll ever understand it as the doctors didn't even understand. So I know I won't get my answers that I need :( the dreams are different each time. But it's always him coming back from the dead and me being like what on earth how are you here??? Last night I dreamt they dug him up and found him alive and the hospital called I rushed in and he was sat in bed having a brew refusing to talk about what had happened. It's all very bizarre :( xxx

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    It's understandable not being able to grasp what's happened. Made all the more difficult because you couldn't see him. I cant even imagine how hard this time is for you. Big love out to you, I would certainly look into bereavement therapy and all the support you can get. It's such a big and tragic shock in your life. Be gentle with yourself xxx

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