For those of you grieving loss i just want to say a few things that help me

The pain of loss is understandable 

Look up the stages of grief on google to understand yourself and others around you

Go through the motions of grief in your own time in your own way

Understand othersay not have the same response to you about a passing and thats ok. Dont let it come between you.

There is no time limit to grief... Ever

You pain is there becuase your love was strong

Be thankful to have had them in your life 

Live your life and be guided by them

They would want you to be happy 

They would want you to live 

The pain is real... Sometimes its stronger than others.. It can be that bad you feel like your heart os going to explode and your going to continie to fall down a big hole... Go with it... Let it out... Dont keep it in it will make you ill 

Talk to someone... If not your friends and family.. Someone neutral like a gp or counsellor 

Dont be affraid to talk to a counsellor... If you went ans said nothing, everything or cried your eyes out they have seen it and will know how to deal with it 

Try to avoid alcohol or drugs or too much of anything bad for you... Addiction comes from our methods of trying to heal ourselves... And wont help in the long run 

Hug a pillow and imagine you are hugging that person 

Talk to them 

Say everything you want to say 

When you feel sad.. Write all the feelings you have down... Get it out. You will be surprised what writting things down can do to help... I was shocked 

We are only on earth for a short time... Try to live the life you have as best you can dont beat yourself up for living, for laughing or for not living.. Grief is real. But we are only so far behind the ones who have left us.. Until we meet again xx