I lost my father three months ago. I am heartbroken. We were very very close. It doesn't seem real yet I know I can't see him again. How do you cope with it all?
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss - I can only imagine how incredibly difficult this must be. Everyone's journey of grief is different and always very personal to them. It is lovely to hear that you were so close to your father although of course this will no doubt only be making things tougher at the moment. Things will eventually get a little easier, or at least more manageable. And there is always support available if ever you need it.
There will be others on this forum who have been through or are going through something similar. So hopefully you'll receive further replies here soon, but do also have a browse or search of the forum if you would like to, to find other discussions and reach out to others on the forum. It is a supportive community and hopefully it can be a help to you in terms of connecting with others.
If you feel you're struggling, do also have a look at Cruse - they have various different heplful resources, a helpline, and information about local support too.
Keep taking care of yourself. Try to find pockets of time to focus on the present and on things you enjoy doing, while also allowing time to process your emotions and grief.
We're always here for support if ever you need it.
Hi I'm so sorry for your loss,I do understand I also lost my father and I know it's very difficult the pain of losing them does get easier,you will never forget but just think of all the lovely memories you had with him x
I lost my Dad 3 months ago too, exactly a week before Christmas. I missed my Dad by literally 30 seconds too late but my Mum and Brother had got to the hospital about 20 mins before. I'm finding it still so hard to accept that I didn't get there in time and that I didn't get to say goodbye. That is what is killing me the most. I have been told by many that my Dad would have known I was there as your hearing is the last sense to go and I'm trying to take comfort from that but like you, I can't get my head around the fact that I will never see him again. I visit his grave a couple of times a week and that brings me peace and comfort when I'm there and talk to him and make sure his grave is nice and tidy. I know my Dad would hate seeing me so upset and would want me to enjoy my life and carry on doing things that bring me joy and happiness but it's so hard. I've gone from crying every day to every other day then maybe every 3 days. I believe it does get easier and you have to learn to live with your loss but I have days where I just break down and sob my heart out as I miss him so much. I just wish Heaven had visiting hours x
I don't know about you but I feel guilty even for trying to laugh at things. It's when you are on your own when you have time to think that it's the hardest. I do like to think that my Dad is up there looking down on us all.
It is very hard. I hope that one day in the future our tears are replaced with smiles when we think of our Dad's.
Grief has no time frame. Please be kind to yourself and take care xx
I lost my partner very suddenly within 5 days of diagnosis back in October 2021. Danielle was only 38 and the love of my live. I still have bad days nearly 6 months on but they are getting less. Keeping busy with exercise, work, going on walks, and talking to people has helped me get through so far but I suspect it will be a scar I wear for the remainder of my life.
All I can advise is take whatever time you need to grieve. Everyone copes in their own way and only you know what is right for you. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you find it's getting too much.
I actually have a Remembrance Day for Danielle tomorrow at the school she taught at and will be seeing the hospice nurses who cared for her in her final days for the first time since she passed.
I am so terribly sorry to hear about your partner and sending you love. Thanks for your advice - I think keeping busy is something I definitely need to do x x
