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6 months on, still in shock

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Hi,

My dad passed away Sep 21 aged 51 after numerous trips to the hospital with severe back pain that started May 21. He had Crohns disease for over 20 years however the hospital failed to do a blood tests and instead fobbed him off to physio etc, it wasnt until he was sicking up feces that they decided to do further tests that showed cancer that started in the bowel and spread to the liver and spine. He had one dose of chemo however ended up with a chest infection. He found this out in August and didnt tell any family/friends. Although I knew some info it was a huge shock. Is this a common thing for cancer patients to do? Is it to protect the fsmily?I think even now I'm still in shock at how quick it happened and am still trying to get my head around it. 

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    Hi

    So sorry to here about your dad he was so young too .my situation is slightly different as we knew my husband had cancer but it was a complete shock as out of the blue 

    He complained of back ache and had a cough back in May 19 then after being diagnosed with lung cancer in June 2019 he was only 54 fit and healthy and passed away suddenly 9/9/19. We have been together for 26yrs married 19 yrs. we have two amazing children my daughter was aged 15yrs and my son 18yrs . It’s has been really tough as we are such a close family . This was such a sudden death so we were not prepared also the doctors kept putting it down to infection then virus then it was too late.  Like your father he also had one round of chemotherapy then ended with a chest infection well that's what they said it was then ! 

    Victoria 

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    I am so so sorry to read this. I lost my father three months ago and can relate to what you are going through. 
     

    For me it doesn't seem real yet and the pain is awful. I am panicky because I will never see him again. We were so so close. 
     

    Sending you a hug. I know how hard it is x 

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    Hi Victoria, 

    I am so sorry to hear about your husband. It is crazy just how quick this illness can get someone, not helped by them not even trying further treatments with lower dose etc. Just wish others would be taken seriously with their symptoms as those days/weeks are so crucial! 

    Take Care 

     

  • Offline in reply to DaddysGirlAlways

    Hiya, 

    I am so sorry for your loss. It is tough times but I have to take comfort knowing that his not in pain anymore, I so hope overtime you are able to do the same. 

    Take care x

     

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