Lost my mum

My mum had ovarian cancer. She died 3 weeks ago. She didn't want to die. She has been in and out off hospital since October and finally got a diognosis just before Christmas. She came home for 2 weeks while awaiting appointments at the hospital to hopefully have some treatment we were told to cure. While there, she had a stroke her second this year. This went undetected by staff my mum rang me to say her speach had gone and I had to ring them to tell them what had happened. Unbelievable. She then got carted off to another hospital basically to die.

I fought for her after many phone calls from her crying begging to come home after figuring out the system and fighting I got her home and cared for her myself. She died 2 weeks later. The main thing I'm struggling with is how upset she was she was devisted she didn't want to die she was so sad and I could tell. 4 months it took from feeling a little poorly to death. Cancer is cruel. 

  • I'm so sorry for your loss Kimst. It sounds like your mum had a very tough journey but I'm glad that you managed to get her home and be with her at the end.

    I know it will be tough but please be kind to yourself. You did all you can for your mum and I'm sure she really appreciated everything you did to make sure she was comfortable, well looked after and safe.

    I'm sure our community will offer their support and advice to you soon but I hope this information we have on coping with grief will offer some help and comfort to you at this very difficult time.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator