Cancer of unknown primary

Hi all, 

With great sadness, my wife of 6 months (married July 2021) passes away Sunday 9th January aged 30 yrs old. Leaves behind three children and a loving and devoted husband.

Back in October, my wife started experiencing back pain, and after a few weeks she finally went to get checked out. After giving her some pills and a physio appointment she was in her way. After a a few more weeks, enough was enough and went private and had three sessions of osteopathy. This was not achieving resultsand she became feeling more ill. We had her admitted to hospital, and after being treated for anemia, something wasn't right with her bloods. They took a bone marrow biopsy. After a few days of waiting we were given the results, a week before Christmas. Cancer In the bone marrow. I was told by our oncologist, that in fact they cannot find the primary source. We were under the cup spectrum. After making all levels ok, she was allowed home for Christmas and New year with family, whilst they invistigate further and get results in new year. On Monday 3rd Jan my wife was feeling quite unwell, unable to move about. I called out hospice trained nurses to come and see, with concerns the cancer is acting up, we had her re-admitted back to hospital. Three days later we had a mri scan and a day later one shot of radiotherapy to help with pain and releave symptoms. My wife became increasingly unwell through Saturday evening and early hours Sunday morning I had a call from hospital, 2.30am, can you please come in. I got there to find her levels were through the floor, they managed to stabilise but borderline. Throughout the day I was with my wife and various family members went to visit. She was declining incredibly quickly and entered a coma later morning. Hospital wanted to run a ct scan but deemed in the end too risky. By 5pm that day, my truly amazing wife had slipped away. Passing peacefully with nothing more than oxygen left. I'm truly proud of how hard my wife fought the fight, however it happened so quick she wasnt realising she was dying. Now she leaves three amazing children and a devoted husband. Her memory will always be alive and my children will grow older knowing how amazing she really was to everyone. 

  • So sorry to hear about your wife Tim89.  My partner passed away only 3 months (12th October) ago from cancer of unknown primary, only 5 days after receiving her diagnosis.

     

    Danielle was only 38 and had no symptoms up until 4-5 weeks prior to her passing.  She was a fit and healthy girl and we were completely in love with so many plans of how we were going to spend our lives together.
     

    She was my soulmate and she leaves behind 2 kiddies (not mine) that I still see once a week, as they now live with their father full time.

     

    Danielle never got the chance to fight this horrible disease but I know she would have because that's who she was.  I draw comfort in that she was not scared and I was there with her right to the end.  She passed away in my arms at 22:22pm.

     

    I miss her every day and always will.  Stay strong...

  • Hi Mark, 

    I am so so sorry to read about your partner Danielle. Reading your story I can relate to. I was extremely lucky to of marries in July last year, which was her wish to fulfil. We officially was together for over 8 years. My love for her will never change and from what I read, yours will not to with Danielle. Their memories will never fade. Stay strong and stay safe. 

  • Hi Tim,  so sorry to hear you lost your lovely wife and mother of three kids.   I can tell you the same horror story for my 39 yr old son who passed away on 8 January last year, leaving behind 2 little kids and an inconsolable wife.  He was diagnosed with the rare and aggressive Rhabdomyosarcoma and had just 10 months from diagnosis.   Like you our hearts are broken.

    Wishing you strength for the rocky road ahead.