Losing my Nanny is so hard

Hi all, my Nanny died on New Years ever just gone (2021).

we only found out 11 days prior that a lump she had was cancer. Very rare & very aggressive. Hardly has anytime to come to terms with it before she was gone.

I'd been visiting her every day in the Carehome she liked in & was there alone with her at the very end holding her hand.

I cried at the time while talking to her & as she passed but since then I don't seem to be able to connect it with the fact she's gone.

we are arranging her funeral & have collected all her belongings & still I don't seem to be able to cry. 
for some reason I'm suppressing my emotions.

any advice? 

  • A warm welcome to the forum, RuthyRoo.

    I want to start by saying that I'm sorry to hear about your loss and offer, on behalf of everyone here at Cancer Chat, our sincere condolences.

    Losing someone we love is never easy and there is no right or wrong way to experience grief. What is important though is to go easy on yourself in this process. With this in mind, I wanted to share a page from our website which covers coping with grief and I hope that can be of some help.

    Hopefully, others who can relate to your experience will come along shortly to chat with you and offer support. In the meantime feel free to write as much as you need, we're here to listen.

    All the best,

    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator