Feeling almost resentment after the loss of my mum

I lost my mum almost 6 months ago, she was 56 and it was 2 weeks after her cancer diagnosis. We were very close and I was with her towards the end.

After my mum died, my nans husband passed away 2 weeks later also unexpectedly too, so I've been helping my nan sort her house out etc all while caring for my husband who's had a stroke.

I'm feeling extremely anxious and almost resentful towards family who seem to be just getting on with everything while all I can think about is my mum. I feel like I'm biting my tongue all the time especially as my nan seems to think she can take over the mum role to me. I feel like I'm going mad

Apologies for the long post x

  • Hi Miss Toni 

    So sorry for the loss of your mum,

    I too lost my mum she was only 65 years old and feel angry at how people seem to get on with their lives while I'm still struggling to cope the loss of mum.

    It was me who took alot of time of work to look after mum and was there till the very end.  I still relive the last moments like a movie playing out in my head.

    I get so angry that she's gone, and people tell me that everyone grieves in different ways, and life has to go on, but I miss her so much my heart aches. 

    We have to remember that although others seem to be getting on with their lives that they too are probably grieving and we just don't see it, maybe they are hiding it from everyone else and crying when no is around to see, I cry when everyone is in bed just so they don't see how I'm struggling with it all, maybe that's what the rest of the family are doing too. 

    I hope this helps, just knowing that it is normal to feel this way. It's all the process of grieving as they say time is a healer xx ️