I lost my Mum in September 2021

Hi all,

 

I am new here.

I lost my Mum in Sep 2021 and it has just been dreadful. My Mum and I had an extremely close relationship, we are best friends and love each other so so much! I'm finding life so hard without her! My Mum got diagnosed with bowel cancer in beginning of the year, she had incurable bowel cancer but was not severely unwell with it. I was still able to meet Mum and go for lunch and dinners with her so she was mobile. Mum started chemo in August and then had to go in hospital as the chemo made her very unwell and then she died within a week of being at hospital. The hospital confirmed that the chemo basically killed my Mum. I just can't accept and come to terms with this all. She's been taken so quickly and we wasn't even able to go through the process of her dying and to gradually start accepting that. We are all so heartbroken!

I was just wondering if anyone has experienced something similar with a family member or friend, so I can kind of understand this a little more. 
My Mum unfortunately only had one lot of chemo as she didn't make it to the next. She died on her weeks break from the chemo. I miss her so so much!

Thank you 

  • Hi Stap88,

    Firstly welcome to Cancer Chat - and I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I can only imagine how incredibly difficult this must be, especially the way it happened and I'm sure this must be very tough to come to terms with.

    It sounds like you may have others around you for support and so hopefully you are able to keep speaking to friends and family in an effort to help each other and process things.

    If you feel you're struggling and would like to explore further support, have a look at Cruse - they offer various resources and also a helpline for those experiencing grief.

    I also hope this forum can provide some small support to you. Do use it anytime you want to reach out or connect with others - or even simply to write things down. Hopefully you will also receive further replies to your post soon.

    Take care and wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator