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How do you cope? Christmas.. Grief.. Loneliness

My-Only-Rose
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Hi everyone,

I really just want to find out how other people in similar situations get through it.

I lost my whole world, my soul mate & the only person who showed me love on a day to day basis & understood me for me. It's only recent just over two months ago now & the pain it brings I know will never ever ever ever go away I no it's super raw.

Obviously it's Christmas time & there's a lot of people who are really excited & love the get together because they have a massive family or friends they enjoy it with & thats brilliant. I guess am saying what do you do when you haven't got that.

How do you cope? So many people keep saying speak to friends or family, I don't have any friends who I can turn too, I do have family but there not there for them conversations.if that makes sense & I do know people deal with grief different.

I never needed anyone or anything when I had my best friend it's the worst feeling ever but if anyone could share any tips or any advice at all, please as well if you feel like chatting I would be super greatful, I can imagine am not the only one out there who feels this way but I never ever know we're to start?

Anyway thanks for taking time to read this, I really do hope it makes sense too & I generally hope your getting through your daily life the best you can.

xx

  • I'm so sorry that you are having to endure the pain that comes with losing a parent and best friend. My-Only-Rose. 

    Many of our members have, sadly, also experienced the loss of a loved one near to Christmas so you really are not alone in going through this and I'm sure our community will offer you as much support and advice as they can to help you through this very challenging time.

    As you say, everyone copes and reacts to grief in different ways. There is no right or wrong way to grief but if you feel like you may benefit from extra support then bereavement counselling may help. Marie Cure and Sue Ryder both have some excellent information and advice on getting through Christmas after the loss of a loved one, with the latter having an online bereavement counselling service that you can register with to receive free and professional video counselling. Both of these charities have online communities just like ours where you can talk and connect with others who are grieving as well.

    I know there's nothing I can say or do that can take away the pain but I hope it helps to know we're thinking of you My-Only-Rose and sending our strength your way.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hi Steph,

    Thank you so much for your message & providing the links for more support it does help me a lot. It's really kind of you also to send your thoughts I appreciate your time.

    Thank you again

    xx

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    Such a hard time for a lot of people and hope u have found someone u can speak and confide in.  Life can be so cruel and grief is tough. 

    Sending love xxxx

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