Recently lost my Father to cancer 3rd December. I'm in shock. We didn't know how ill he was. Watching deteriorate in a matter of days and seeing how confused and disorientated he was has severely affected me. We stayed until the end. However, my biggest concern is the hospital were useless. Left us in the room alone to watch him die (me and my partner both 33).

We have no previous experience of cancer and my Dad had not told anyone of how ill he was. Just that he had had a stoma in September and he would get chemotherapy 'when stronger'. The cancer had metasisized into his liver. 

I'm starting to get angry that the hospital did nothing. He took his last breath and we didn't know what to do. The nurses didn't care. They'd left us alone with him after telling us there was nothing they can do. They had said 'end of life pathway' but we were never told what this meant. It was awful. My Dad went in there completely lucid on the Sunday, didn't recognise me by the Wednesday and had died by the Friday morning. I'm just so sad about this. 

I lost my Mother at 14 to domestic violence so I have felt this pain, loss and grief before. However, I'm just filled with absolute horror about what happened. Do nurses normally tell patients and their families what will happen? My Dad did not tell us how ill he was and think this was not to worry us - he was stoic. 

Realise this is a bit emotional and apologies if it is the wrong place to post. I'm just heartbroken.