Hello RioPark and a warm welcome to Cancer Chat, 

I am so sorry to hear that your mum has been diagnosed with advanced bowel cancer. I can imagine you are feeling truly hearbroken by the news and it is normal to feel powerless. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone here on the forum, that so many other members of our community find themselves in a similar situation at the moment and will be there to talk to you and comfort you. 

We're thinking of you and your mum during this difficult time and you are always welcome here to offload anytime you need to talk to others who understand what you are going through at the moment.

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Lucie,

I fully Appreciate the reply thank you so much.   Not sure where to start with what's going on with my Mum and myself anymore. I've come to accept what's happening and am now mentally prepared for what coming but this latest news is just the final chapter of what's gone on with Mum whilst she has been in social care for the last 3 years. If I told you Mum has broken her hip 3 times and fractured here shoulder twice along with a broken forearm and multiple facial injuries all because the system would not recognise Mums needs properly would you believe me?  Maybe this is not the place to go into more detail because right now it's all about Mum who like ai say is very poorly and weighs less than 5 stone. Mums End of life care has now begun and whilst she is at least comfortable I fear the journey has many more paths yet before it reaches the end.

Oh I'm so sorry about your mum. You must feel heartbroken at all you have both endured over the past few years. My grandmother suffered similar (on a much more minor level) and I felt I had to fight the system continually. I once found her delirious due to a urine infection and another time sat on her own coughing up endless fluid. I marched up to the matrons office and said if they couldn't sit with her I'd admit her to hospital. I am glad your mum is comfortable and hope she passes quickly and peacefully x

Jo bs,

Sounds a familiar  story and my heart goes out to you and anyone else who has had to fight the system.  Mum is 95 yrs old and incredibly brave but like I say she is entering her final journey. At least we can visit mum now with no restrictions at the care home that we once had to endure due to Covid. Mum is finding it hard to swallow now and has had her Meds changed to liquid only. The prognosis came via her GP who basically said taking mum to hospital was pointless as the Mass in her stomach was inoperable given her age and the poor state of her Heath. I take her all kinds of stuff to eat and drink but she won't touch anything and she is completely bed bound now. On top of this Mum has advanced Dementia and barely recognises anyone and it's that part I personally find the most challenging but again,compared to what Mum must be going through mentally and physically that's the least of our worries.