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My mam was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and given months

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My mam was diagnosed with stage4 cancer yesterday they gave her a few months she is a very nervous woman and doesn't want to die it is killing me to see her like this I'm lost 6 weeks ago dad was diagnosed with leukaemia how do we cope with this

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    Hello Tom_C, 

    I am so sorry to hear that your mam has been diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer. It's so sad and it must be so hard for you to have to see her like this. What type of cancer does she have if you don't mind me asking? 

    It's terrible too that this is all happening at the same time as your dad has been diagnosed with leukaemia and you must be feeling like this is all too much and that it is really hard to cope. All you can do really at the moment is take one day at a time and try and spend as much quality time as possible with your mam and also show your dad that you are there to support him as he is probably about to start his treatment. 

    Our section on how to support someone with cancer has some useful tips to help you look after a loved one with cancer but you mustn't forget also to take care of yourself during this difficult time as mentioned on this page from our website. 

    I hope that you will hear from some of our members who have been in a similar situation and that they will be along shortly to share their experience with you. I will slightly edit your title to make it a bit more specific so that others who can relate to what you are going through can find your post more easily.

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

     

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    Hi there ...

    I'm so so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment... I just want you to know your not alone ... l know Lucie has given you good advice ... so please reach out to those she's mentioned ...

    I lost 7 family members in 13 months through the covid shut down ... a sister to dementure,  an uncle to Parkinson's... a niece to cyctic fibrosis... 2 to covid and lastly my granddaughter to acute myeloid leukaemia ... she was just 18 ... 

    Now my amazing niece is facing her cancer it's treatable but not curable.... so all I can tell you is what wer doing ... making the most of every day .. doing things when o.k ... sitting chatting or watching a film or looking through photos when a down day ... but treat every day as a bonus ... I've been through my grade three breast cancer.... but doing o.k ...

    It sounds unbearable when you put it all together ... but I think no one is promised tomorrow... any one can be taken ... so live each day as best you can so you'll look back and know you didn't waste a moment ... believe me I know there's days when it feels overwhelming... but that's o.k go with it .. then get back to doing what you have to ... one day at a time ... sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie x

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