I care for my mother in law and I’m lost.

I am caring for my mother in law, my wife and I live with her and my brother in law. A bit of back story, she had primary cancer, got rid of it, then covid hit and she just chained cancer after cancer- one then another and at this point she has it in her lungs, bones, lymph, blood, liver and more. 
 

She's been steadily getting worse over the months, and it's to the point she sleeps all the time (where before she never slept or was a light sleeper) and I can't get her to eat much and she vomits if she does (the past 3-5 days) 

I'm so scared and worried and I don't know what to do or expect. Is this temporary or do we need to start preparing for something.... I'm so scared, we love her so so so much, she's like a mother to me what can I do to help?

  • Hello bumpkin1

    I'm so sorry to hear about your Mother in law's diagnosis. It's obviously an incredibly difficult time for you all and when you add in the duties that come with caring for a loved one it's understandable that you're feeling lost and scared. 

    You don't mention in your post if there is any support in place for her and for you all as a family. If she has been referred to the district nurses, palliative care team or a hospice team then please do get in touch with them as they will be able to step in to give you all the support you need and to make sure she remains comfortable. 

    If there is no support in place or you don' have any contact details for anyone then please get in touch with her GP and explain the situation. The GP will be able to get in touch with the relevant people to put the care and support in place for you all. 

    We know that it can be really difficult caring for a loved one. If you'd like to talk things through with one of our team of nurses you're most welcome to call them on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm. I'm sure they will be happy to offer any advice and support that they can. 

    Please do reach out for some support Bumpkin1. You are not alone and there are people who will be able to help your Mother in law and support you as her family. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator