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How to support dad with terminal diagnosis. Any advice?

Taylor1
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Hi, 

My Dad has been told that his cancer is no longer manageable and we've been told to get things in order for him. The reason for this post is to ask for advice on how to support him with this news. He was told this a couple of weeks ago and seemed to be managing well considering, however, yesterday he had a complete mental breakdown, it's as if it's just hit him like a lightening bolt! My mum, myself and 2 sisters are there for him totally and we can support each other but when it comes to Dad we just don't know what to say to him. Our usual 'don't worry' or 'it will be fine' or 'we can sort it' isn't right now .  Any advice would be so much appreciated. 

  • Hello Taylor1

    I'm sorry to hear that your Dad has had some bad news about his diagnosis this week. It's completely understandable that the news has hit him as you've described. 

    How is he doing since you posted on Sunday? If he's still distraught then you may want to consider speaking to his GP for some prompt advice and support. 

    There are a number of support options for your Dad, the family, and yourself. If your Dad has or is being referred to a palliative care team then do speak to the nursing team. They are a font of knowledge and understanding and will undoubtedly be able to offer support and advice. 

    I'd recommend having a look at this information the Maggie's website which you may find helpful and you might want to give our team of nruses a call to talk things through. I'm sure they will be able to offer some information, advice, and support. They're available Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm on 0808 800 4040. 

    This is a very difficult time for you all. Be kind to yourselves and take each day as it comes. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

  • Offline in reply to Moderator Jenn

    Hi Jenn, 

    Thank you for your advice. Dad's GP is involved and we have managed to get him something to help him sleep now. I'll take a look at the link you've sent. 

    Thank you so much for your helpful caring response

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