My mum has been diagnosed with bladder cancer and I do not know how to cope with it or how to help her. She was diagnosed a month ago. After her diagnosis she shut herself in her bedroom, would not speak or eat or do anything, She was rushed to hospital a few nights ago with severe dehydration and lacking in nutrients, and an infection that had become so rampant that she was slurring her speech and was disorientated. She is not able to get treatment yet because she has become too thin and weak and would likely not be able to witstand the bladder removal surgery or the chemotherapy.
Because she is in hospital, all of the responsibilitie at home have landed in my lap. I live in a small house with my mam, aunt and uncle. My uncle has abused me several times in the past and I am very uncomfortable being here without my mum. I am a 21 year old medical student in Trinity College Dublin. I have a lot of college work to do. I have friends and a boyfriend, I am finding it very difficult trying to manage things with my mum, my family, household things like bills, etc. , college, friends and my boyfriend. I am overwhelmed.
I am also feeling really down because I do not know what is going to happen with my mum. We're very close and I don't know how to cope with possibly losing her. I can't focus on anything else except this and it is making me extremely sad. My personal relationships and college work are suffering.
Does anyone have any advice?
