Hello Slp

I'm so sorry to hear that your partner has been told his cancer isn't curable. It's obviously an incredibly difficult time for you all. I can see from your previous posts that your partner has been dealing with cancer for some time now and so it's understandable that you're struggling to hold everything together. It's a lot Slp and you're doing a great job but it's also important to look after yourself as well and so I'm glad that you've reached out to try and connect with others. 

I know we've lots of members here who have partners with similar diagnoses and I hope that some of them will post to share their experiences with you and offer any words of advice and support. 

In the meantime, you might find it helpful to have a look at some information on our website about coping with cancer and I'd encourage you to give our team of nurses a call. I know that they will be happy to talk things through with you and offer any advice and support that they can. If you'd like to chat with them they're available Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm on 0808 800 4040. 

Keep in touch Slp. I know that the community will do its best to offer any advice and support that they can. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator 

Hi 

I am really sorry to hear about your partner I am in the same boat as you unfortunately. I'm 39 our kids are 21 and just turned 13 so not little kids but our youngest is autistic my husband was diagnosed with esophagus cancer in April unfortunately was too late for him chemo didn't work and he starts immunotherapy tomorrow although any positivity I had has long gone seeing him fading away so fast is heart breaking I'm an emotional mess most days I've given up trying to be perfect because I was making myself ill and was on a verge of a breakdown.

You are doing amazing and you need to remember that you also need to try and time for you. No body expects to go through this and not especially at our age I feel robbed and I'm terrified of the future and how I am going to get through it. Just keep speaking up I never just kept saying I was ok because I felt guilty saying I wasn't ok it all caught up with me 2 weeks ago.

speak with your Macmillan nurse they are there for you too I opened to up our nurse this weekend and she really helped me feel a bit better. You can always chat with me too xx

Hi,

I hope things are going okay for you and your family.

I am in a very similar postition to you - I have 2 children agd 15 & 10, I'm 36 and my husband has stage 4 prostate cancer.

Please message me if you ever want someone to talk too x

Hi.

My partner has stage 4 neck and throat cancer and we have 6 children, would love to chat with you, im finding things tough and im sure like you i have my good days and bad days.

Hi there

so sorry it has taken me so long to respond. Do message if you would like. Thinking of you. 

Hi there

i don't think I ever read these messages after posting. I am stil on this journey. If you are able, please let r know how you are getting on. 

Thanks so much for this and apologies for not responding at the time. It's a long journey with ups and downs. Wondering how you are getting on right now?