Husband has cancer i have tried to be strong for him but i find myself feeling unloved just a carer his mood swings and attitudes have changed i try to be this strong person but i feel im falling into a deep hole so depressed unable to sleep
So sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment.... I've been on both sides of cancer, and I found it was far harder caring for someone ... please understand cancer can make even placid loving people turn angry and fustrated and take it out on those close ...
Saying that, it doesn't ease what your going though ... try to reach out to McMillan or the helpline on here, and look for numbers you can call ... I'm tagging in #the moderators... as they have numbers you can use to get someone to talk to ... but know your not alone ... many on here have been where you are now .. try to keep it in mind its the cancer talking ... and when things get too hard ... get out for a while ... do something for you ... walk in the park ... or have a coffee somewhere ... go shopping ... anything to help you get a little break ...
If you can get someone to give you a break ... do it .. take any help offered ... sending you a vertual hug .. Chrissie x
I noticed our lovely member Chriss mentioned us in her post so I just wanted to share some information that I hope will help.
It can be very rewarding but also very tough to care for someone with cancer. If you can, do try and talk to your husband about how you're feeling as it may help you understand what you are both going through and bring you closer together. Macmillan have a lot of information and advice for people supporting their partner on their website.
As Chriss has said, it's really important to get some time for yourself so you're able to recharge and come back both physically and emotionally stronger. If you have friends and family close by, would it be possible to see if any of them would be able to help out or spend some time with your husband for a little while so you can have a break? If that isn't an option then it may be worth getting in touch with Carers UK as they may be able to offer you and your husband some valuable support.
We also have some information and pointers on our website on taking care of yourself when caring for someone with cancer but if you feel you are becoming depressed do get in touch with your GP and let them know how you're feeling as they'll do all they can to help.
Our team of cancer nurses are also available on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m (except bank holidays) if you'd like to talk things through with them as well.
I'm in a very similar situation, I completely relate. Thankfully I haven't been experiencing insomnia (which is quite strange, it's generally my response when stressed).
