Hi all

just wanted to drop my thoughts onto here really as I'm sure many of you will feel or have felt the way I do

my mum was diagnosed about 6 weeks ago with stage 4 lung cancer it's in multiple pulmonary nodes her spine and also her hip she's struggled with pain for ) months but other than that was fine 

they are offering her chemo and also immunotherapy which she is due to start next week

im concerned as she's gone downhill in the last few weeks,  I've just spent a week with her in Devon she was really fit active and no other co-morbidities before being diagnosed with this she's in a lot of pain upper back now constipated due to pain relief struggles to take tablets she cannot swallow very easily and is hardly eating she has no appetite and is asleep all the time, clearly she is struggling but doesn't want fuss 

ive aired my concerns with the cns this morning who said to get her to the gp which she is refusing to do 

im struggling with it all I feel like it's all on me im the only one we lost my dad five years ago to cancer too 

I just want to see mum as pain free as possible and for her to be as comfortable as possible and not be "ill" im worried chemo will not be good for her given the way she is now shes not that strong anyway very slim hardly eats and I worry about the effects of this on her 

anyone going through the same would be nice to hear thoughts x