Sadness

My mum was diagnosed with stage 4 existing breast cancer from 23 years ago that has now spread onto the lining of her left lung, spreading into her blood stream. Shocked because it has just come on all of sudden and she has deteriorated quickly. The fluid keeps building up on her lungs and changed colour within in 2 days. She is constantly out of breath but they've not supplied oxygen tank. 

Me, my Brother and Dad are beside ourselves with this devastating news as we've been lucky 23 yrs and nothing, the worry and fear as always been there but to come back in the same breast is a even bigger shock to us. 

She has up and down days, has insisted on making a wish list and wants to plan on doing things before it gets bad (make memories).

I know it's going to get harder. 

 

  • Keep close to her, in the sense of being by her side at all times where possible, and let her guide you in what she wants to say or do, and if there's anything you feel you want to say to her, those moments where you think should I say this, make sure you say the things you want to say to her, all that you can manage is how you cope and how comfortable you can make her, other family members will cope the way they are going to cope, all that can be managed is in how you manage things and how comfortable you can make your mum, and be guided by the medical team contacts that are there for her

  • Thanks for your advice Grace001, sorry it's been a few days a very difficult, hard wk. I've tried to catch up on sleep (as I'm not properly sleeping, that is when my mum is really bad).