My dad has terminal cancer and is tired a lot and very down. How do I encourage him to think about the things he can do in the time he has left and not focus on what he can't do?
So sorry to hear about your father. My Mum has terminal lung and secondary bone cancer. She rarely smiles and she used to be so happy-go-lucky until a few weeks ago.
It is hard to know what to do, I am in the same boat as you. I have asked my Mum what she would like to do, and she has little interest in anything other than getting dressed, eating her meals and getting back to bed.
She used to love music, dancing, spa-days, baking and shopping. Sadly all that is in the distant past.
I have noticed though, that Mum loves it when I ask about her childhood, her parents and her school/college years. I have started to take notes, and hope to share with all the grandchildren one day. Maybe that could be an idea for your Dad?
Thanks so much that's really helpful. Dad's very quiet at the moment so it would be good to get him talking. I wish you all the very best with your Mum. x
