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My husband has been diagnosed with a recurrence of his bowel cancer, which has spread to his liver, peritoneal, prostate and water pipe. I have 3 year old twins, one of whom seems to be completely oblivious to this, however the other one has started suffering with separation anxiety quite badly, and has become very clingy. I'm quite concerned about her as previously she was a very confident little girl. Does anyone have any advice as to how i can help her please or any organisations which support children so young? We haven't explained the situation to her as I don't think she would understand at all but she has obviously picked up that something isn't quite right with Daddy. 

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    Hi there ...

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment...  caring for all, please remember you need support to... try not to take it all on your shoulders ...

    Three is such an in between age ... and you have both sides of the coin in your twins ... I'd just say use gentle honesty ... like admitting daddy is poorly ... and the Drs are going to TRY to make him better... go with the flow ... treat each as individuals... call McMillan or Marie Currie... as both may have books to help you and them .. and advice as they come across this sort of situation ..

    If they see you cry, admit your feeling sad ... then they will know it's o.k for them to have tears too ... children have a way of crying and being upset or angry... 10 minutes later playing with toys ... like they can do both ... there's no right or wrong way .. as what works for one may not the other ... but gentle honesty all the way ... be kind to yourself ... it's no easy feat what your doing ... don't loose you, you need a hand to hold to ... sending you a vertual hug ... Chrissie x

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    Hi there ...

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment...  caring for all, please remember you need support to... try not to take it all on your shoulders ...

    Three is such an in between age ... and you have both sides of the coin in your twins ... I'd just say use gentle honesty ... like admitting daddy is poorly ... and the Drs are going to TRY to make him better... go with the flow ... treat each as individuals... call McMillan or Marie Currie... as both may have books to help you and them .. and advice as they come across this sort of situation ..

    If they see you cry, admit your feeling sad ... then they will know it's o.k for them to have tears too ... children have a way of crying and being upset or angry... 10 minutes later playing with toys ... like they can do both ... there's no right or wrong way .. as what works for one may not the other ... but gentle honesty all the way ... be kind to yourself ... it's no easy feat what your doing ... don't loose you, you need a hand to hold to ... sending you a vertual hug ... Chrissie x

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