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Dad has bowel cancer

Ellie5210
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Hi, I'm not sure if people still talk on here but I've been looking online for people who have it, have had it or have a family member who's had it I can relate too. 
 

I found out 2 days ago and I'm not going to lie I'm devastated. People keep saying it's one the easiest cancers to treat but to me when I hear the word cancer all I hear is death and I'm really struggling. 
 

People keep saying to be positive which is obviously the right way and I will be positive when I'm with my dad of course but behind closed doors I'm having a hard time with it. 
 

Not only is he dealing with this only 2 weeks ago he was in a horrific lorry accident where a man rammed into the pack of his lorry while at a stand still and basically crushed his lorry. Paramedics said they can't believe he's alive so I was only just getting over that and then this happens! 
 

id appropriate any advise on how to deal with his or just talk to someone who's in the same boat so I don't feel so alone. 
 

thank you 

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    Hi

    My Dad also has bowel cancer.  He is just recovering from an op to have it removed.  He's doing very well physically,  but my mum also has kidney cancer and we've just been told it's incurable.  So we are all devastated.  

    It's a really awful thing to cope with.  My advice is to talk about it as much as possible,  with your dad, family and friends.   And try to get some time to enjoy yourself,  you need to take care of yourself. 

    If you want to chat, drop me a line.

    Jo x

     

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    Hi

    My Dad also has bowel cancer.  He is just recovering from an op to have it removed.  He's doing very well physically,  but my mum also has kidney cancer and we've just been told it's incurable.  So we are all devastated.  

    It's a really awful thing to cope with.  My advice is to talk about it as much as possible,  with your dad, family and friends.   And try to get some time to enjoy yourself,  you need to take care of yourself. 

    If you want to chat, drop me a line.

    Jo x

     

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    Hi, Jo 

    omg I'm so sorry to hear that. How's your mum feel about that? God cancer is just such an awful disease! 
     

    thank you so much for replying and since I've put the first post I've actually come to terms with it it now. I'm not able to change anything so I have no choice but to try and be positive and like you said try and enjoy ourselves and just be together and make memories. 
     

    Again im really sorry to hear about your mum. Im always here if you want to chat. I've got two friends who's mums are also in the same position. 
     

    I might not be able t relate but sometimes talking to someone you don't know defoliation helps. 
     

    stay in touch 

    Ellisha 

    xxxx
     

     

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    Thank you Ellie.  My Mum and Dad are both devastated and its so hard just to see them both in so much emotional pain.   I feel like its not real, its just all so weird.  Don't think I've taken it in properly yet.

    Glad to hear you are coming to terms with things with your Dad.  With my Mum I found once we got treatment started it started feeling normal and then easier to cope with.  Take it one step at a time.  Best of luck to you and your Dad xx

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