support dealing with double terminal diagnosis in family?

Hi

in the last week my mother has had a terminal brain cancer diagnosis and three days later my sister had a terminal omentum cancer diagnosis. In both cases the cancer has metastasised from previous treated breast cancer. Time is short for both of them (3-6 months). This has been a severe shock to me, obviously, and I am struggling to get my head round what has and what will happen. I am moving temporary back into my mother's house (the one I grew up in) which is 150 miles away from where I live with my family. My sister lives quite close to my mother. 
 

While I have had great support from my wife and daughters, they will not be with me physically as I help my mum through her journey to the end and as I also help my sister and her two daughters through their journey as well. I think I will need external support to help me get through the coming onslaught. I would be grateful of some guidance about what support is available.

  • I'm so sorry that your mum and sister are both terminally ill,  this is utterly devastating and especially with you being far away from your wife and daughters. Do you have anyone at all close by your mums house that can support you? 
     

    Can you speak to the Macmillan nurses? Is there a Maggie centre close by that you can go to for support? 
    My mum is terminally ill with secondary brain lymphoma so know what you are going through. I'm just so sorry that you are having to watch your mum and sister deteriorate at the same time. My heart goes out to you. Not sure if I have been much help but wanted to send you some love and strength. Please look after yourself also. Easier said than done x 

  • Thanks Koko29. Devastating is definitely the word. I will definitely look into what Macmillan can offer.

  • I've heard Macmillan are amazing. They are due to come out to see my mum tomorrow for the first time. 
    I will keep you, your mum and your sister in my thoughts