I wonder if anyone can give me some words that can get me through this nightmare.
My husband was diagnosed 3 years ago with bowel cancer which has now spread to his liver. He recently had half of his liver removed and to date we have been told that the operation was successful and we are now waiting for the results of a CT scan which will tell us if he needs another round of chemo (this will be the 3rd). My husband is very strong and has coped very well almost to the point that you forget he has it. However, having gone through the recent lockdowns that we have had to endure (quite rightly) my husband has completely disowned his daughter
During the lockdown there had a number of serious disagreements as she is extremely clinically vulnerable but he kept going out playing golf even though she asked him to not go until she moved back into her own house. He refused and hence many arguments prevailed. She has now moved back to her house and since we have found out that his cancer has come back. She has reached out to him on a number of occasions but he wants nothing to do with her.
We are a normal family but we are now broken and I feel at a loss to know how to deal with not only my husbands cancer but also the fact my family has been broken. Is this a symptom of cancer? Can cancer affect emotions to the point that you don't behave in your normal way. My husband idolised his daughter and I don't understand why when we should all be pulling together as a family, he is pushing the family apart. Has anyone else felt like this. Does cancer affect personalities as this is not like him, he can be stubborn but this makes no sense at all. I don't know how to deal with the fact my husband has got cancer and he has been told it will come back and my daughter is not allowed to come home to not only support him but also support me. My daughter is also a doctor so her support is invaluable. As if dealing with cancer isn't bad enough, I'm emotionally wrecked.
