Hello

My husband was diagnosed with bowel cancer march 2020.hes had radiotherapy and an op to remove tumor. They then discovered it had spread to his liver, so he started on chemo for 3 month. After chemo he had another scan, we were really hopeful of a good result, but the tumors had grown and then they discovered it had spread to his lungs as well. We got a call to say the tumors had mutated to braf600 and that did not have a good outcome. They have started him on a new treatment plan, the beacon plan, but said even with this he only has a median life expectancy of around 9 month. I just can't get my head round this, it is devastating. How on earth do you cope with this news, how to stop it taking over your thoughts. Its the last thing I think about when I go to bed n the first thing when I get up.

 

  • Sorry to hear you are feeling that way. I don't have any good answers - but I feel much the same way. For me, I can set those thoughts aside as long as I'm doing something physical (housework/go for a run), but useless if I'm just sat still, especially on my own.

    I've seen some people manage to dump their thoughts in a notebook for 5-10 minutes and then close it and carry on with other things, and come back to add to that notebook at fixed times. I've considered that but not yet tried it, as I'm not sure I have the discipline.

    Every night, I do write down up to 3 things that have made me smile/content in the day, in a journal, before I go to bed - which does help me go to sleep with some positive thoughts. Depite everything, it is a rare day that I can't come up with a single item for the list.