Hi Busby,

This must be an awful situation for you both. I agree with Aggie's advice, start asking questions and you should get some answers. Many people don't want to know what is happening at this stage, so you don't always get the answers you want unless you ask direct questions.

Wouldn't it be great if we could all get a holiday from cancer?

Thinking of you both.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi thanks for reply

You have hit the nail on the head I don't want to know what is happening at this stage but I know I need to 

I have only just come to terms that it's incurable if I'm honest 

I resigned myself to him having treatment to manage he's syptoms and beable to live what time we have left in comfort 

I really hope with all my heart that we may have a year at least  together I wanted us to get married again like we did 24 year ago 

But now I'm sat alone terrified incase the hospital ring me 

I feel like I'm having a outer of body experience I can't come to terms with what's going on 

When doctors are talking I can't hear them I'm so scared 

Hi thanks for reply

You have hit the nail on the head I don't want to know what is happening at this stage but I know I need to 

I have only just come to terms that it's incurable if I'm honest 

I resigned myself to him having treatment to manage he's syptoms and beable to live what time we have left in comfort 

I really hope with all my heart that we may have a year at least  together I wanted us to get married again like we did 24 year ago 

But now I'm sat alone terrified incase the hospital ring me 

I feel like I'm having a outer of body experience I can't come to terms with what's going on 

When doctors are talking I can't hear them I'm so scared 

Hi Busby,

Bless you! The way you are feeling is perfectly normal. You are naturally scared stiff and I don't blame you. Have you had any word from the nurse or the oncologist yet? All you can do is to be there for your husband, to make sure that he is comfortable and that his painis well controlled. Sadly, you will find that he is likely to eat and eventually drink less the nearer he comes to the end.

You might find it helpful to write down a list of all the things you want to know, as it's all too easy to forget an important question in the heat of the moment. In the meantime cherish the time that you have left, instead of worrying about what will eventually happen. Takes things a day at a time or an hour at a time if need be. The whole picture is just too much to cope with at the moment. 

Thinking of you and willing you the strength to see this through.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx