Hello

Hello, all rather new to this - just 4 weeks into my husbands diagnosis of dudodenal adenocarcinoma with liver mets. It's treatable but incurable or so we've been told, but it's just so hard to find any more information and his team were reluctant to elaborate on much more at the moment.  He's not started any chemo just yet and is 2 weeks out of surgery for a gastro-jejunostomy. He's in amazing mindset but physically the surgery has taken its toll and he was admitted to hospital again late last a night due to developing a chest infection and a bleed in his stomach. I know we've a lot more to come as it's barely even started, but up to 2 weeks ago it was like he just had a bout of chronic indigestion, but already I feel so bleak in his positivity and strength. It's helped to have read all your posts and while still early days I hope I can become a bit stronger for him as well as myself.  Thank you and maybe we will speak again some time.

  • Hi Lulablu,

    Oh how awful for you both. I'm in a similar situation with my wife - she has just started chemo and has had lots of complications leading to hospital stays and it seems 1 thing after another and has all progressed so quickly.

    She too is amazing in her strength and positivity and i feel so lacking in comparison but......

    ..... I think we have to stay strong for our loved ones, its what they need and it will help them to stay in a positive mindset which i think is vital. I always make sure that I am positive and not upset when I'm around her and take myself away when I find myself upset.

    Wishing you love and strength in this terrible time.

    Si