My mum has been having chemo, and up until her third session everything was fine. We were close and we would laugh and joke together and she would talk to me about how she was feeling and she was handling things pretty well. She would have bad days and get upset or just wake up on the wrong side of the bed but she would just let us know that she needed space and after a day or two she would be okay. After her third session, she's just become a completely different person. She's constantly snapping at me and shouting at me, I can't talk to her at all without her rolling her eyes and huffing and puffing and telling me to leave her alone. I can't even say good morning to her without her getting annoyed with me. Sometimes I'll be talking to my sister and even thats enough to irritate her so much that she can't be in the same room with me. She never talks to me anymore and I can't ask her how she is or if she's alright because she shouts at me that she's fine and to stop asking. She just absolutely hates the sight of me at the minute and whenever I ask her why she says I'm annoying her, even when I've left her alone and not spoken to her for days. I've tried giving her space and letting her do her own thing but it just seems like no matter what I do she just hates me. On the other hand she seems fine with my sister, when she talks to her she's still in a bad mood but she can have a relatively normal conversation with her. I completely understand why she feels down and I don't expect her to be happy or upbeat in the slightest but I don't understand why it's only me that she has such a problem with? I hate saying this because it makes me feel awful but she's just so unpleasant to be around now. I don't understand why she hates me so badly but she isn't like this with my sister. I'm the oldest so I've been the one taking her to all of her appointments and I make dinner and help her with whatever she needs, but even as I'm giving her dinner I'll say soemthing like 'do you want another cup of tea with your food?' and she'll just sigh and mutter under her breath. But then my sister can sit and talk to her about games and youtube videos or whatever for hours on end, but I can't join in at any point because she gets frustrated and ends up going upstairs. I've tried talking to her about things she's interested in, I've tried joking like normal, I've tried asking how she is and I just get nothing back. But she'll have a massive long conversation with anyone else but me. My sister has noticed as well and has tried to like include me in their conversations but as soon as I say even like oh i've seen that! she just switches and is in a foul mood again. It's getting to the point where I'm having to shut myself in my room all of the time as to not get in her way and to avoid annoying her and being shouted at.
She's constantly shouting at me and telling me to be quiet or go away and it's making me absolutely miserable. I don't understand why or what I've done, and I've tried absolutely everything. I really understand that this is hardest for her and that she's feeling down at the minute. I don't expect her to be happy or okay all of the time in the slightest, I just want to help her. Has anyone else had this? What did you do?
