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My Dad has lung cancer

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Hi All

My Dad raised me as a child and has been mum and dad to me, I am now 41 and he is 68.  I also have a 19 year old daughter who adores her grandad so much.

We got the news 3 days ago he has lung cancer and spread to liver.  I can't cope, I fall to pieces when I see him.  He is such a loving man and I've never seen him stress over the smallest of things.

I don't know how to cope going forward, he must be so scared, worried, terrified which upsets me so much to think he is going through this I'm not sure I have the strength to carry this stress going forward.

I have a high level job with stressful situations and not sure if I can carry on with the pressure.

I cant bear to think of life without him.

How has everyone else coped I am floored

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    Hiya, 

    im so sorry to hear about your dads diagnosis,

    I just wanted to say my mum to has just been recently diagnosed , and due to start treatment next week,

    have you been told what type of lung cancer it is? Or been offered any treatments or therapies, as there is so much they can do these days, 

     

    this is the most gut wrenching horrific experience of my life, and my dad passed away when I was 19 I am 38 now, I thought nothing would compare , but when your parents is diagnosed with cancer,  you just can not get your head around it, 

    I feel just like you,


    could not sleep or eat , and I still can't most nights, 

    but I'm praying with treatment my mum will be ok, 

    If you need to chat or ask anything I will try my best to help, 

     

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    Hello there,

    I read your post and I felt compelled to reply. 
     

    I am so so sorry to hear about your dad, I can only imagine the pain you are going through and I wish there was something I could say to take your pain away.
     

    My Grandad (72) - the only father I have ever known has also been diagnosed with stage 4 metastic lung cancer (spread to lymph nodes) in November. It was the biggest shock of my life and I will never forget that day. He still to this day has no symptoms of lung cancer and I find it really hard to accept, as he looks so well. Every time I see him my heart breaks all over again. Like you, I am so very close to him, he raised me my whole life and my world revolves around him. I have two boys who absolutely worship the ground he walks on. My youngest is to young to understand, but my eldest is equally as heartbroken as I am. 
     

    Has your dad been offered any treatment? 
    My grandad had four rounds of chemo and thankfully it has been more effective than the doctors said it would be. Unfortunately he doesn't qualify for immunotherapy or any other treatment, so he has to go for scans every 3 month. His next scan is in June and everyday I pray that it comes back no change.

    Like yourself I can't imagine my life without him. My world has been a darker place since his diagnosis, but I try to remain positive and I see him every day. 
    How is your dad coping with the news? 
     

    Please know I am thinking of you and sending you lots of love at this time x

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