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Making Memories: mum given a terminal diagnosis

Aktafica
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We have been told only yesterday that instead of the small tumor that was believed to be in the bowel is intact terminal sites of cancer and has been told a matter of weeks to live.

Her and my step fathers wishes are for her to spend her last days at home. I'm happy with this, we will have 4 x 1/2 hrs  per day carers in to help us care for her.

Although it has been a shock to be given a definate diagnosis, I think all 3 of us knew in our own way that there was something more.

I was hoping for advice on how to enjoy any make memories of the last days of her life?  I'm in a strange place at the moment I don't want the last few weeks to just be memories of  nursing, pain and death. I want to have something special to remember her by, just me and her.

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    Hello Aktafica and a warm welcome to Cancer Chat, 

    I am so sorry to hear about your mum's terminal diagnosis and what a lovely idea to want to spend the remaining days of her life making precious memories of her surrounded with those she loves in the comfort of her home. 

    I hope you won't mind but I have added the words 'making memories' to the title of your post - this will hopefully attract more relevant replies from members who have found themselves in a similar situation to you right now, and who have also spent time with their loved one and created special memories. I think you are right not to want these last few weeks to be just sad memories and I hope that you can enjoy every moment you have with your mum. 

    I will now let our members speak and share their experiences with you as I am sure they will have a lot of helpful suggestions for you based on their personal stories. 

    I just wanted you to know that we are thinking of you and your mum during this difficult time. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

     

     

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    Hello Aktafica and a warm welcome to Cancer Chat, 

    I am so sorry to hear about your mum's terminal diagnosis and what a lovely idea to want to spend the remaining days of her life making precious memories of her surrounded with those she loves in the comfort of her home. 

    I hope you won't mind but I have added the words 'making memories' to the title of your post - this will hopefully attract more relevant replies from members who have found themselves in a similar situation to you right now, and who have also spent time with their loved one and created special memories. I think you are right not to want these last few weeks to be just sad memories and I hope that you can enjoy every moment you have with your mum. 

    I will now let our members speak and share their experiences with you as I am sure they will have a lot of helpful suggestions for you based on their personal stories. 

    I just wanted you to know that we are thinking of you and your mum during this difficult time. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

     

     

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