Caring for mum with lung cancer

Hi I'm currently caring for my 82 year old mum who was diagnosed with lung cancer, even though she was diagnosed 2 urs ago She's has just started her first session of chemo, simply  because she was told it's now or never. We know there isn't any cure. It's basically to prolong her life as much as possible. The big problem is that She lives alone. But refuses come to live with us, which makes it so difficult, especially in the current situation with COVID. Like most vulnerable people She's been self isolating from the start, she hasn't any personal outside space and has only gone out for hospital/ doctors appointments. I've had to give my job up and have been trying to take care of her solo with no other outside help for obvious reasons. I'm her only company really as her friends can't go around, although they do ring her. I guess my real big problem is her memory is getting worse. She insist I've not told her stuff when I have.. I've even written reminders for her.. I can't trust her to do what she's supposed to be doing when I'm not there, she's quite stubborn at times which makes me so feel angry inside, and although I never show it I Then I feel guilty for feeling angry because of what she is going through..  Sometimes she's drained me so much I come away feeling totally exhausted and deflated. I'm not saying she doesn't appreciate what I'm doing, but sometimes she makes  it's so hard. Everything I do seems to be a battle with her. There are so many more issues going on  than I've mentioned, but I just need to get some of it off my chest before I crack. 

  • Hello Maltidaray and welcome to the Cancer Chat forum.

    I can't begin to imagine how difficult being a carer during a pandemic has been but from what I've read I think you've done an amazing job.

    I'm sure many of our members who have found themselves in a similar situation will agree and I'm sure you'll receive some support and advice from them soon.

    In the meantime, if you'd like to talk things through with one of our cancer nurses do be sure to give them a call. They're available on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m and will do all they can to help.

    I know it will be tough, but I hope you're able to find some time for a little R&R as it will really help you both on this journey.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator