Hi All, so last month we found out my mum has cancer, in her lungs and suspected in her thyroid, ovaries and bones. 

I'm just at a complete loss of how to go on living my day to day life. My mum has been offered a biopsy but declined as she says she essentially wants to ignore the cancer for as long as she possibly can (she had a CT for a damaged knee which then revealed the cancer) 

I don't know how to carry on, I feel an immense sense of guilt if I am not with her all the time. She is completely bed bound (her mobility has deteriorated through the last year due to arthritis etc and now it's obvious that the cancer has made her weaker) I just don't know what to do. 

I work full time and have a young child, I don't know how to juggle all of this, am I doing the right thing continuing working at the moment? 

Because she won't have the biospy we have no idea how far the cancer has spread or how progressed it is, I just feel completely helpless. If it was the case that we were going to lose her soon I would put everything on hold but the doctors said they don't know, it could be months it could be years, they can't tell us anything concrete without the biospy. 

I just feel so guilty if I am not with her all the time, I'm so worried she will pass soon and I've not spent all the time possible with her because she's asked us to carry on as normal but I simply can't do that. 

I just wondered if anyone had any advice, thank you for taking the time to read my post.