new to site dealing with grief

Love to everyone on here 

dad was diagnosed last year I’ve struggled with the news, dad wasn’t much for talking and showing feelings when I was younger. My mum wanted me to leave home a few years ago so now I wish that didn’t happen so I would of had more time with him. 

I just have regrets of did I do enough no I probably didn’t . I’ve been visiting him in hospice and usually he has been able to make conversation and we can chat but yesterday I saw him unconscious unable to talk and nurses feel this is the end of life stage now all he can do is hear . I can’t stop crying it’s like I have already lost him I suffer majorly with depression mental health problems and this is adding to it and I’m saying to myself to not give up and live on but I’m in pain I’m not working as I use to work at dads cafe which has now closed I have no friends and I just wanted to advice or a friendly word. Anything kind would be appreciated as I would hate to have people comment unhelpful and inconsiderate things especially when I feel so fragile. I can’t eat much or sleep I’m heartbroken 

  • Hi Clarennes

    So sorry to hear about your dad s diagnoses!!

    It very hard to see our loved one going through difficult times and it makes us feel guilty sometimes if I did this or if did that things might be different!! But nothing we can do to change anything 

    Do your best to be there for him hold his hand he will know you love him !!

    Also may be you should seek some counselling for yourself as well to deal with this .

    Jeet123