Hello I'm at home 24/7 caring for my 88 year old lovely mum who has pancreatic cancer T3N1M1 and spread to liver. She's had a stent and this has improved the jaundice and swelling and she's been discharged from hospital do thinks she'll get better. We've gone through what it all means and that it's palliative care only. No treatment plan.
She won't speak to any of her friends about it and only wants me to look after her. Macmillan have been once but because they didn't examine her, she thinks sh must be getting better.
I accept this could be a denial phase, but I'm struggling to know how long we have left. We weren't given a prognosis. And how can I get her to engage with the process. She won't read or listen to anything about how the illness will progress and just tells me to "get on with it".
I have no family support due to their breakdown of relationship with mum.
I'm not really sure what specific advice I'm asking for but it would be good to know how long I might be in this no man's land/limbo.
