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Struggling with husband diagnosis

Kell1980
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Where do I start my husband has recently been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer , which has spread to his liver and lungs this has all happened very quick really becoming unwell on Friday admitted to hospital prognosis is not very good at 6-8 weeks , my question is and not even sure if I'm allowed to post but how do I get as strong as I can be to support him I know my tears don't help him I just feel broken the love of my life and best friend could be gone forever in a few weeks when last week when we didn't know and thought we had years together  feels like a lifetime away

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    Hi kell, I'm so so sorry to hear this news regarding your husband. I hope you find strength to get through this and make sure you look after yourself

     

    What symptoms did he have? 

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    Hey , 

    had no symptoms until about 2 weeks ago which started as a pain in his stomach bowel habits changed then he began going yellow less than 6 months ago we moved he was carrying boxes moving furniture very active and fit way more health than me.He hid a lot of his pain and certainly didn't tell me his food wasn't digesting in fear of worrying me so from fri when we just thought it was stones in less than a week we have been told this just can't keep up and everyday appears to bring more probs and more bad news 

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    Hi Kell,

    I'm so sorry you guys are going through this. The tears are going to come and you shouldn't worry about them, let it happen! You can and will be strong even with them because you know you have to and you want to because you love him and he needs that strengh. It sounds strange but I asked permission from the hubster to cry when I needed to without him complaining, critizising or worrying because its a release valve and I need to. Its working for us but I admit I do a loy of crying in the car on my own ;)

    My very best wishes x

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