Hi Ella. B, It's all so hard and difficult isn't it, we've just yesterday found out a friend of sixty years is dying but doesn't want us all fussing over her, so I just sent a text saying we love her and then asked another close friend to keep us uo to speed.  The trouble is that the people dealing with it have so much to cope with that constant phone calls get very wearing, I know because I've been through it with my husband.  So why not buy a lovely card and write a message in it saying how he feels, how much he loves them and that he is there if they need him.  They can then call him when they are able and ready, make sure you put your phone number in it as many times even finding a phone number is too hard.  Send a photo of your baby and tell them about her as well.  Hope this helps a little bit, Carol x